The Afghanistan war against theTaliban.

Yesterday I had a thought. The news was talking about the need for more troops in Afghanistan. And General McCrystal was saying that the war was being waged on the Taliban in the mountains was overflowing onto the citizenry of Afghanistan. He followed with the realization that if we don't have the support of the people, we will never be successful in the war effort.
It all made perfect sense and I was happy to see him look at the big picture. But what I wondered is this: what would be a "win" in Afghanistan? Has that been clearly defined? We certainly aren't going to eliminate all the crazies who want to destroy the American way of life. We certainly aren't going to change the minds of the clerics who think and believe that we are "infidels" and are, "setting a bad example", for their people??? So what are we hoping to achieve? That they agree to leave us alone? That they stay in some set geographical boundaries and leave the rest of the world to live in peace? What?
So, short of killing everyone who is thinking these crazy things, which isn't going to happen, what what should we do? It seems to me that killing is stupid. Yes, I said stupid.
We are smart, we have a lot of resources, and we have the ability to do huge and devastating damage, but we also give humanitarian aid all over the place. If we were really hard core....REALLY hard core, couldn't we stop ALL money, food, aid of every sort to this area? The people would suffer, but they would stand up and turn on these insurgents and oust them. With food in their bellies and their children safe and fed, they have the energy to fight, Make them fight for their own physical survival and the survival of their families and maybe there won't be any energy left to fight us.
I get that because we have so much we are willing to share and try to lift the lives of others up. But maybe if we let them figure out what they want and how badly they want it, it would be better. \
Just a thought...